When They Know You Are The Secret Powerhouse.

The Secret Power Dynamic Between the Narcissist And The Neuro-divergent.

    Narcissists (N) and Neuro-Divergents (ND) alike are not aware of what society wants from them, but they do a damn good job of feigning the experience. The (N) exploit those perceived as the "weaker links," and the (ND) exploit themselves into fitting the cut. The (N) maneuvers the Neuro-typicals (NTs) into a single filling system of their choosing (determined by their agreed-upon comfortability level of how they connect in social settings). There is a habit that some gravitate towards. In many cases, once you make a fool of yourself, it is impossible to get people's attention in the same way that you had it. When discussing balance in the spiritual, physical, and ethereal (unworldly) community, we speculate on karmic justice, the closing out of cycles, and whatnot. The cross hairs where dysfunction catalysis in society at large is in the delicate balance between the relationship of a narcissist and a Neuro-divergent and the unseen chess board they play by.

I will break down today's topic's key elements: their understandability, empathy, and purposes for self-expression. 

a. Are your intentions translating for others?

b. How does your level of empathy make you a target?

 

Are your intentions translating for others?

    The Narcissist wishes to exploit the system already in place while simultaneously studying the divergent's ability to be daring enough to explore the realms of "Godhood," thereby creating the world they envisioned. The dynamic between the Narcissist and the Neuro-divergent is downright illegal to make a fuss about, but articulating more directly when the people who are involved, or better yet, when the narcissists themselves realize that no one knows the Neuro-divergent (ND) doesn't understand the social cues yet has a deep knowledge of people's emotional landscapes the (ND) become an infinite resource for the Narcissist. 

    Most people walk into their choices with the inspired fear of what others might not accept about them, and in many cases, once you make a fool of yourself, it is impossible to get people's attention the same way you had it. Narcissists see (NDs) as the secret powerhouse of society because, knowingly or unknowingly, they are unencumbered by the "invisible lines" society has a hard time getting past. Be that as it may, most aren't generally keen enough to spot the (NDs) qualities, save for the narcissists who want to fit in just as severely as the (NDs) do. 

    What makes this dynamic particularly dangerous is its insular nature; when the gaslighting takes place (since most people do not relate to the Neuro-divergent nor can they read their lack of societal acuity), they withdraw from them, especially at times when the manipulations increasingly overstimulate the divergent. The tougher pill to swallow served to the (ND,) who has a clear perception of what the Narcissist's intentions are when they choose to communicate to Neuro-typicals (NT) seemingly benign and unrelated socially contractual agreements that purposefully fair to reach the ND's understanding nor do they accurately represent the ND's intentions. In this manner, the Narcissists act like a firewall - whereby they use their understanding of the ND's "ailment" as a private weapon against them, erecting intentional boundaries between them and the "other world"  through their politically correct jargon. 

    The acceptable deformity in a society where people can't quite walk in their skin is the inability to appreciate others who do. The Narcissist is merely weaponizing the gap in understanding our society throws the "curious" members into, either out of laziness, fear, or simply because the perception they are allowed to have doesn't fit the image the ND holds. Without the protection provided for those who are willingly playing in the proverbial box, the ND leaves room for Narcissists to target them, often in closer settings like relationships and family ships. The architects of this fear-based construct are Narcissists because behind their desperate need to climb the ladder is an even more desperate need to have others believe the ladder exists in the first place. 

    The truth is that narcissists are one of the most isolated members of society, and their power resides in covering the well of love hidden in the connection they hinder between the Neuro-divergent (ND) and the Neruo-typical (NT) communities. 

    The horror show unfolds when we begin to see the rivalry between the narcissist and (NDs) ability to mimic the so-called social norms and micro-expressions others use to express their familiarity or lack thereof among themselves. The (ND) enters the crosshairs of the Narcissist's "territory" when they attempt to assimilate themselves (often erroneously). The fundamental discrepancy between the (Ns) and the (NDs) ability to mimic is something beyond the capacity of the (ND), which is the (Ns) ability to accurately interpret the perception others have of them when they are wearing their social mask. 

    (NDs) are the artistic version of the more clinical operators of society like narcissists and psychopaths; the Narcissist is a master deceiver; their calculations include the naïveté of the (ND), thus quickly creating a toxic social environment that vilifies the (ND) without their apparent knowledge. The fact that the Neuro-divergent can empathize with the evil doings of the Narcissist makes them less of a prey and more of an anomaly where the questions usually asked by the masses no longer seem to be applicable. As the bond between the (ND) and the (N) tightness, the viability of the (ND's) perception as far as the outer world is concerned is entirely unreliable. 

How does your level of empathy make you a target?

    The one thing that narcissists want they cannot have through manipulation is access to the marvel that is the authenticity and uninhibited self-expression of the Neuro-divergent. The dynamic between them begins to develop into its more sinister qualities when the mere fascination the Narcissist starts on this journey mutates into an infatuation with finding the best way to destroy the mind and image of the Neuro-divergent. When narcissists spot a person with extreme empathy, one of two things crosses their mind: Can they see me? Can I use them? 

    This unwelcome curiosity of the (N) usually results in research and experiments conducted by the Narcissist (involving but not limited to) over-stimulating the (ND) with toxicity, and in the process, the (ND) does what they do best: they break down their understanding of the Narcissists actions. Most (NDs) fall into the 'use them' category of the Narcissist's appetite because they fail to see the Narcissists' disinterest in anything other than taking down the keen perspective they received from them to help polish their mask to be more believable to the voice of criticism that genuinely matter - society at large or the (NT) communities. 

    The qualities the Narcissist considers when exploiting the (ND) is the fact that the divergent is not aware of how society perceives them; this gap in their knowledge is where their daily challenges stem from. The Narcissist knows what people are trying to convey or impress upon the (ND). They may even understand why the (ND) refuses outside influence. It is 'this' impartial yet profoundly influential quality that genuinely fascinates the Narcissist's unquenchable curiosity. The fact is, when it comes to consideration, the (ND) is practically invisible (a blind spot) in a society where the destructive willpower of the Narcissist is only deemed abuse if the victim's expressions are socially palatable enough to sympathize with. 

    Without perceivable intervention, The (ND) fights to get their intentions across concurrently in a battle with their outer support systems due to the successful insider work on behalf of the (N). The scenario I just described worsens gradually, especially in a romantic relationship. Eventually, you will see how much the Narcissist will invest to either "steal" or destroy the 'X' element that has drawn them to the (ND). The rage of the Narcissist is fueled by the stupidity of society to elect a system of hierarchy to give specific individuals more freedom than the rest under the euphemism of democracy - in the name of existing cohesively. 

    The narcissists feel betrayed by life, by the fact that they have to get their hands bloodied to get what they know society wants out of them. Unlike the (ND), the (N) sees no other way of life because they do not have the haven of their love and nurturing to fall back on. Empathy is the critical element in the oscillating power dynamics of abuse and neglect between these two powerhouses of society. More importantly, the empathy one has for themselves that allows one to perceive the world through the eyes of giving instead of taking. The (N) punish the (ND); they see them as having all the raw materials without the skill to coordinate themselves around those for whom impressions are vital because the (NDs) are the way makers, and they lead with their hearts. 

    The (N) carries a private belief that both they and the (ND) are a masterful dynamic; however, when it comes time to split the bag of money, the (N) always points the gun. The divergent faces powerlessness almost every day, their daily challenges being as simple as brushing their teeth or choosing an outfit. This is where the chasm lies, where society gives a deaf ear as the (N) enjoys a world of being king/ queen to a person unaware of their status as enslaved to celebrate or revolt against it. 

    The Narcissist understands the flaws and double standards and willingly entertains them daily while strengthening the bond (NTs) have with the safety of staying deaf to the sounds coming from outside the box. The (Ns) most significant resource for inflicting shame on the rest of society is the Neuro-divergents' freedom of self-expression awarded to them by their general lack of awareness in applying the appropriate social norms. (NDs) are "allowed" to have access to a world beyond the programming. There is an opposite yet similar place that narcissists and psychopaths claim to have access to; instead of it being one of artistic, scientific, and unworldly fancy, it is that of a dark abyss where there is nothing at all except the need for the "self" to go on without exceptions to change or challenge to the authority of this thought pattern. 

    The enemy and the perpetrator of this perfect dystopia is intuitive empathy - the very thing that has made the (ND) a threat, a resource, and a victim all at once. Thus, in the 'Do they see me?' 'Can I use them?' metric of the (N), (NDs) end up occupying both slots, and the (N) uses them as a bowling bowl to knock the (NTs) into the shape of the box they unintentionally shoved themselves into. 

Conclusion 

    If you are working to start enjoying your presence, something about the orbit you spin for yourself begins to have a gravitational pull; you become an object of mass significance. The hour's topic touched on the tight, often grueling relationship between the dark and the light, but beyond that is a force that merges them both. We have created rules that most agree with because of inspired hate. The "as above-so-below" actuality is perfectly demonstrated and later manifested in reality via the invisible wars fought between these two climactic players in the collective, the Narcissist (N) and the Neuro-divergent (ND). 

With love,

L I G H T

    

Written by: 

Birhan Assefa

published poet; of the book: 

'sad girl'

Public Speaker  & Founder of Light, 

the YouTube news channel series:

'Look What's Happening 

in the Spirit Realm.'